I must confess that I am in the purist camp. I don’t like to entertain the illusion of choice. A man is typically far stronger than a woman and could overpower us if he wanted to. By contrast, a bound and restrained creature is another matter altogether. It can beg, cry, whimper and wriggle. But there will be no revolution.
When I look at femdom photos I must confess that I am more turned on when the man genuinely has no choice but to comply. Freedom to move could mean freedom to choose, or indeed stop. Nobody wants that…
Purists argue that a free man may simply be self-gratifying. Essentially treating the woman as a service provider. Not exactly femdom?
Purists feel that a man should be bound at all times during femdom sex: blindfold, gag/urine gag, handcuffs, ankle cuffs, lead. At no time should there be the remotest possibility of free will. Purists reduce the man to an object, a tool, a receptacle.
Others feel that the man should be free to move and that it’s his voluntary submission that makes it femdom.